First, things first, considering your name, don't begin by biting his neck. There will be plenty of time for that later in the kiss. :-)
Remain calm. Smile. I've found, that if you both smile, the kiss is often much better. There is something relaxing about seeing someone smile, and the way it makes their lips feel.
Make sure your lips are moist. Using a nice flavored lip balm, is a good start, but make sure its a flavor they actually like. If nothing else, just lick your lips. Its actually fairly instinctual for animals to lick their lips, when they desire something. I have a pet rabbit, and she'll actually lick her lips when she sees food. We humans aren't that much different. It can serve as both a way to moisten your lips, but also indicate you are attracted to them. It can be very flirtatious.
Relax your lips. I know your first instinct is to close your eyes, lift your chin and do a tight pucker, but you need to relax. People want to kiss soft, supple, moist lips. They want it to feel like pressing against a pillow. You have muscles in your lips, and when you pucker, it tenses those muscles and it gives them a hard surface.
Avoid using too much tongue. Less is more, when it comes to tongue. Your tongue has all sorts of wonderful nerve endings, but most are on the tip. You don't want to feel as though your mouth is being invaded by a serpent. The idea is not to lick their tonsils, its to stimulate yours as their nerve endings, and you only really need the tip for this. Also, the tongue generates a lot of saliva. Nothing kills the mood faster, than drool. ';Oh baby, I love it when you drool.'; There is a fine line between moistened, glistening lips, and flooding their mouth with your saliva. You also need to make sure they can breathe. You don't want to drown them in saliva, and you don't want to plug their airway with your tongue.
This leads me to my next point, make sure you both breathe. Kissing might get hot and heavy, but neither of you has gills, and you both need to be able to breathe. One thing to consider, is that when aroused, glands swell. One gland that swells, is actually located inside of your nose. Much like genitals, your nose actually becomes more erect too, when sexually aroused. Sounds strange, but its true. For this reason, some people, may find it difficult to breathe through their nose, especially if they have a deviated septum or suffer from allergies. Spring might be a time for lovers, but its also prime-time for allergies. So, give them a chance to breathe, because gasping for air, kills the mood fast.
What I recommend is that you alternate from kissing to admiring one another. Cradle their face in yours, look into their eyes, kiss various parts of their face, and all the while, each of you gets to take some much needed deep breathes, before returning to kissing their lips. Now is actually when you probably should be biting their neck vampire girl, because it will give him a chance to breathe, and it will seem playful. Although, be careful. :-)
As for your hands, use your best judgment. If you're young, which I imagine you are, avoid privates. I'm not going to sit here and tell a young girl to groap, or let some guy groap her. Frankly, that can kill the mood too during a first kiss. If you're standing, you can put your hands around each others waist, back, shoulders, run your fingers through their hair, hold their hands, or cradle their face in your hands.
Personally, I'm a big fan of running your fingers through hair and cradling their face in your hands. I think its romantic and pleasurable. I think its also a great way to keep hair out of your face, but make sure you don't mess-up each others hair so much, to the point they'll be embarrassed.
One thing I would like you to consider is make-up and perfume. They tend to taste and smell nasty. Most perfumes are alcohol based, and are absolutely disgusting to taste. If you insist on wearing them, don't put them on your neck or face. Instead, consider wearing a deodorant or putting a little on your wrists. He's unlikely to lick your wrists, and it can still be heat activated and smell nice. Also, not everyone likes perfumes. Many perfumes give me headaches. If a girl is drench in perfume, I wont enjoy kissing her, because my head will be throbbing in pain. I once hugged a girl, and was instantly turned-off and had no desire to kiss her, because of the perfume she wore. So go easy on it. It also masks natural pheromones, which arouse your partner.
Likewise, makeup is also an issue. Make-up may not smear or run, but it may not taste great either. If you have lipstick, foundation or blush on, he's getting that in his mouth, and he may not like that. So, be considerate, and go easy on the make-up. I personally, prefer a woman to wear a little flavored lip gloss and skip the lipstick, when kissing. At least it will be enjoyable that way.I'm worried I will be a really bad kisser? 10 points for best kissing advice, please!?
i just got my first kiss at the end of my senior year. i was really nervous but in the end im glad i waited that long because when i did finally kiss a boy, he ended up being the most perfect caring guy ever. and he is now my wonderful bf. you need to just relax that is the best advice i can give you. if your nervous itll ruin the whole thing. second dont worry about how good you are. you should kiss a guy you really like and if the guy truly likes you back he will understand and wont care how you are. now youll know when the moment comes and make sure you you guys are close. i like to lean in together and cock my head so we dont hit each other. start out with little pecks and slowly those little pecks will get more passionate with longer kisses. by this time start opening your mouth. and flick him with your tongue in a kinda teasing way, hell like it. nibble down on his lip and if he wants to french keep your tongue in. dont leave it limp move it around in a slow but constant rhythm. and then go back the way you started. go back to little kisses and pecks. pull away slowly and itll leave him wanting more. also use your hand. run them thru his hair and caress his neck. good luck=)
ok here what a guy likes put hand on there upper leg and just make out
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