Fiance wants to prove she could be independent but wants to stay together, advice on how or books on it?

her recently married sister has jumped from relationship to relationship without breaks and she's afraid she's done the same. She says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me but doesn't feel like she's ever proved she could make it on her own. Any advice on how she can gain that confidence without separating? Maybe books or other resources I could get her? ThanksFiance wants to prove she could be independent but wants to stay together, advice on how or books on it?
If you live together move out. You can still be together without depending on each other. If she is paying rent, bills, food, ect on her own then she is independent. She doesn't need to break up with you to do that.


I didn't live with my fiance for a year and a half. I know I am independent and I don't need his cash to survive.


I don't think there are any books out there that teach you to be independent, but there are books out there with tips to save money, budget for a month, ect. Maybe that's what you are looking for?





Edit: Even emotionally. If you live together move out. If she can live by herself and not depend on you for everything like adult conversation, going out with her girls instead of you, ect then she is emotionally independent. Too many people think when they become a couple they have to do everything together! That's not true. Suggest she go to a movie alone or spend a Saturday with her family or friends. When something is bothering her suggest she work it out with herself before seeking adviceFiance wants to prove she could be independent but wants to stay together, advice on how or books on it?
Figure out what all the expenses would be if you were living apart. What would her bills, rent, utilities etc. cost. Then, when she gets a job she can pay off her current bills and put the rest in a savings account. That way you don't have to experience the anxiety of separation and she can feel like she could make it on her own.





Take care :-)
im going through the same thing with my boyfriend.it doesnt mean i love him any less, i just need time. I want my independance. I want to prove to myself I can make it on my own. My mom was with my dad for 25 years. She got married at 19 and never had to work. She recently left him because she said she lost herself. She is now working and paying for her own things. Give her the independance, its nothing againt u.
That's a life skill that you can't learn in a book.